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Life or Death – Which Are You More Afraid Of?

9 Jan

Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem more afraid of life than of death.  ~James F. Byrnes

If there was a national survey taken and the question was: Are you more afraid of life than of death, what do you think the response would be? Would the majority of people say they are more afraid of death, or would it be the opposite? I think the response would probably be death, since next to public speaking; death is our population’s number one fear. But I don’t agree.

I agree that when asked most people would say death, but if you got them into a private conversation you would probably find that their biggest fears are those they think of daily. And all those fears revolve around living, not dying.

Let me explain. Ask someone who has been in their job for many many years; “Have you ever considered changing careers?” The answer might be; “I have, but I’m settled in here and I might not find anything better.” What’s not being said is, “I’m really afraid that nobody might hire me. I have years of experience, but it may not be the right experience. I should just stay where I’m at.” This is the voice of fear.

Many people would love to go out on their own and start a business, but only a small percentage actually do. What you typically hear is; “I would love to start my own company, but I’m not sure which direction to go. So many new businesses fail within the first two years. If I buy a franchise it will cost me a lot of money and I don’t think I can raise it. The kids are still in school and this might not be the right time.” This is the voice of fear.

A single female friend of mine was telling me that there is this new guy at work she’d love to connect with. I asked if she’s talked to him yet and her response, “No. I’m too nervous just to walk up and introduce myself. Plus why would he even be interested in me? I’m not anything special.” This is the voice of fear.

I can go on and on with these examples but I think you’re getting the picture. Death is going to happen. There is no way to avoid it. But other than Woody Allen, how many people think about death every day? I’m sure very few. What we do think about daily are the things we would love to have, be and do. Those things that would make each of our lives more fulfilling, joyous and prosperous. But all too often when we start dreaming of the life we would love to have we begin to think of all the reasons why it will never happen for us. What you are hearing is your internal voice of fear.

And so you see, we are more afraid of living than we are of dying. Is this the way you want to continue living your life?

To the life waiting for you,