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What Does Fear Sound Like?

5 Jun

You’re probably thinking, “That’s a weird question. How does fear make sounds?” But it does.

Have you ever said, or heard somebody say anything like, “I can’t do that! I wouldn’t know where to begin; I’ve never been good at mechanical things; I wish I could help but I’d probably make a mess of it; Who you really want is my older brother, he’s great at that, but certainly not me; I’m such a klutz; With my luck it will never happen; You’re talking about something way above my pay grade.”

If you have heard or said anything like the above you now know what fear sounds like. Often said with self-deprecating humor by the individual, what you have really heard is a long standing internal belief that they hold about themself. And often it was given to them by someone else when they were too young to argue its validity.

You see, what often happens is others (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, classmates, friends and even teachers) define who we are. And because they’re usually older and we look up to them, we take it as the truth. Their truth about us, becomes our truth about our self. And we forever live with it.

Take for instance the woman who thinks she’s a klutz. Probably when she was a toddler or preschooler she wasn’t very coordinated, constantly bumping into and knocking things over. Not at all unusual for that age. Whenever this happened her parents and other family members probably joked about it. But to the little girl their looks and laughter created a deep seated fear and belief that it was true. And then, even many years later, when faced with a situation requiring poise and balance, she would immediately declare to all that she wasn’t the best choice, because she was such a klutz.

My belief is that we create our life through our thoughts. What we think about and give emotion to manifests in our lives. If the Universe hears you berating yourself by saying you’re not good at something what do you think the Universe gives you in return? Certainly not proficiency. What you actually get is more proof that you’re not good at something. It’s like a self-fulfilling-prophesy that you can’t escape from.

Henry Ford once said, “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t, are both right.” It’s just a matter of which side of the equation you think you’re on.

With Love,