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It’s Resolutions Time! Again?

30 Dec

I often wonder who came up with the idea to create a list of New Year’s resolutions. A list of all the things we are unhappy with about ourselves, and the “wish” that we will miraculously change over the coming months.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe in change and I believe that each of us has the power within to change practically anything about ourselves. We are that powerful. No, what concerns me about New Year’s resolutions is the way we go about creating these changes.

Often the buoyancy of the holidays (too much cheer, food, spending) gives us a false sense of optimism when it comes to changing lifelong habits. We believe that change will come automatically when we once decide to make that change. Nowhere within the listing stage do we ever ask ourselves, “Can I do this? What plan do I have to succeed? What sacrifices will I have to make? Am I biting off more than I can chew?”

According to a January 2013 article in Forbes magazine only 8% of people who make New Year’s resolutions succeed. If a doctor wanted to perform surgery on you and then shared with you the fact that in better than 9 of every 10 patients the surgery was an utter failure, would you still agree to go under the knife. I have my doubts. Yet, millions of people will sit down over the coming days and create a list of changes they desire in themselves, yet knowing somewhere deep within, that they are going to fail.

Does this mean that you shouldn’t make New Year’s resolutions? Of course not. Go ahead and make your list, but then do the following:

  • Prioritize your list from least important to most important. Then choose the most important item on your list to begin. One item, no more. Once you succeed with this resolution the others will be much easier to attain.
  • Plan the next 90 days and how you’re going to succeed. I suggest learning and using SMART goals. You’ll find them in my book Overpowering Fear or just Google them. If you’re going to lose weight ask yourself, “What help do I need to accomplish my goal.” Over the years I’ve used Weight Watchers and Nutrisystem. Choose a system that feels comfortable for you. Don’t think you’re going to accomplish this alone, YOU WON’T.
  • (This example can be used for most goals). If your goal is to get more sleep create a log to fill out just before you go to bed. Write down the time you went to bed and if you’re not getting to bed on time, write the reason. Review this log at the end of every week. You’ll see that the reasons you wrote down were meaningless. If it was important for you to watch Scandal to the end, ask yourself, what the episode was about? If you can’t remember then it wasn’t very important.
  • Accept the fact  that no great change happens without some sacrifice. Whether it be food, time, alcohol, video games, etc. you are going to have to give up something. Prepare to give up the known for the unknown.
  • Because you create your life through your thoughts, don’t let thoughts of failure derail you. Done right, you have a greater chance of success than failure. Whenever a negative thought enters your mind causing unwanted fear say to yourself, “Thank you for this thought but I choose not to accept it. Instead I ask for a thought that is just the opposite.” It may sound crazy but it works.

For those who try my plan for accomplishing their New Year’s resolutions, I would love to hear back from you. Tell me your successes and your failures. My goal is to make this work for everyone.



You Only Have One Life!

18 Nov

Luckman’s Law: The bad news: you only have one life. The good news: you can start living your perfect life anytime you choose. Make that choice NOW!

How many people do you know who are always complaining about their life? Their past was a dismal failure. They grieve for all the things they should have done and could have done.  And their future is even scarier for they fear it will be a repeat of their past. You may even be one of these people.

Well, the past is gone. There is not a thing any of us can do about it. But there is good news. Each of us has been given the gift to change our circumstances and consequently the life we are living at any given moment — we decide. Yes, we all have that POWER.

You are not helpless. You have just forgotten how really powerful you are. Decide this very moment to reclaim your power. And this is how you do it.

Change your thoughts

Right now you may feel scared and uncertain about your life. And all that fear comes from the thoughts you dwell upon. When feeling down and dejected ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” My guess, it is a negative thought. Now let go of the thought. First, thank it for coming to you and then let it go. Now, replace it with a positive thought. You may say, “Thank you for this thought about (__________). I now let go of this thought and replace it with this thought (_____________).” And, don’t say it doesn’t work for you. It works for everyone. Just give it time.

At the beginning you might think it’s not working because that voice in your head says it won’t. That voice is your ego and your ego is not your friend. It wants you to fail. The more you do this the less you’ll hear from your ego.

Use these two most important words “I Am” to declare to the Universe your perfection. Repeat these positive affirmations as often as you can throughout the day.

I am Powerful.

I am a Winner.

I am Smart.

I am Talented.

I am Lovable.

I am Exceptional.

I am Perfect.

I am Deserving of Everything.

Make up your own “I am” statements. It’s easy and they work.



I Wish You Wouldn’t Talk to Me Like That!

22 Apr

Let’s pretend that you had a friend that you liked and felt connected to, but every day when they spoke to you they said things that weren’t very nice. In fact, some of the things they told you could be downright nasty, negative and hurtful.

They might have told you that your clothes didn’t look good on you. That you were putting on weight and soon nothing would fit.

When you had an idea that you thought you’d like to pursue they told you all the reasons why you would most likely fail. Why it wouldn’t work. They might even question your intelligence by calling you stupid or dumb.

At work they might remind you that your talents are few and it probably would be smart not to ask for a raise or promotion. Just stay where you are and be happy you have a job.

If you’re interested in somebody of the opposite sex they might remind you not to get your hopes up too high, considering all your past romances that failed. They may even tell you that the person you’re interested in is out of your league. To settle for someone more like you.

Now let me ask you this, would you continue to be friends with this person considering how they talk to you? I’m sure your answer would be no. Perhaps HELL NO! You would want nothing to do with this person. Because they are certainly not your friend.

Well this “friend” is not easy to get rid of, because this friend is you. For so many, this is how you speak to yourself. You don’t need someone else to tell you these hurtful things because you do a damn good job of beating yourself up and tearing yourself down.

This is your ego talking to you and this must STOP!!! And the first thing you must do is realize that practically everything you say to yourself is a LIE. Yes a lie. Told to you over and over again by someone else; your parents, grandparents, other relatives, friends, siblings, classmates and even teachers. Sometimes it was said to you with love and sometimes with malice, with the intent to hurt you. You accepted these lies about yourself and now you believe them as the truth. But they are not the truth. Never have been and never will be.

If you only knew how truly powerful you are, you wouldn’t put up with this incessant mind numbing garbage for one minute longer.

Just remember your greatest power: You can literally change your thoughts. And when you change your thoughts you change your life.

With Love,


If Only…

2 Apr

If only, if only, if only – the whine of the powerless! Michael Luckman in Luckman’s Laws

Have you ever caught yourself saying “if only?” Was it to justify why something did not turn out for you as you wanted? As in, “the meal would have turned out better if only I had a new stove.” Or, “I wouldn’t be late with the report if only the other departments would get me their numbers on time.” And how about, “I could be a lot more successful if only I had gone to a better college.”

“If only” and its cousin “I could be” are excuses. Nothing more. When I hear them being spoken they sound like a whine. Oh, poor me, poor me, poor me, life would be so much better if only, if only, if only.

If you’re a movie fan you may remember this famous line by Marlin Brando, “I coulda been a contender!” in On the Waterfront. Yes, you could have if life worked out differently for you. But you threw the fight (cause) and now you’re a bum (effects).

People who consistently use these terms are proclaiming to anyone who will listen that they are powerless. Nothing more than a leaf blowing in the wind with no control over their life or their fate.

But is that really true? No, it isn’t. In fact, you are powerful beyond measure. You are only powerless as long as you believe you are powerless. The moment you decide to change. The moment you decide to take control over your life. That is when all the power of the Universe is at your command.

Learn to ask your higher power, God or the Universe for exactly what you want. Be patient, and never lose faith that what you have asked for will indeed be coming to you. And the Universe will bring you what you have asked for, and shower you with more gifts than you could ever imagine.

With Love,


You Are Not What You Think You Are!

26 Mar

Every decision you make stems from what you think you are, and represents the value that you put upon yourself. ~Michael Luckman in Luckman’s Laws

Tony Parinello, bestselling author of the Selling to VITO books, often talks about what level a salesperson sells at. Does he or she call at the top, the Very Important Top Officer (VITO) level that Tony refers to as the carpeted level, or do they call at the buyer level, where the floors are covered with linoleum. For those who have sold at the linoleum level and the carpeted level they’ll tell you without a shadow of a doubt, that it is easier and more productive to sell where there’s carpeting on the floor. So why don’t more salespeople call at this level?

The answer is quite simple, although very disappointing. Most salespeople call at the level they see themselves at. If you see yourself living your life at the buyer’s level you will be more comfortable among buyers. And will often be afraid of calling at any level above that. If you see yourself as executive material, then you will want to sell at the top level of an organization because that’s the level you aspire to and can easily see yourself attaining. You might still feel some fear but your drive and ambition will give you the courage to overpower it.

T. Harv Ecker, founder of Peak Potentials and author of the bestselling book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, has been quoted as saying that you can take an average of all of your friend’s yearly income and the number would be close to what you are currently earning. So what does all this mean?

It means that until you begin to see yourself differently you will continue to unconsciously live your life similar to what your parent’s life was like, and what your friend’s lives are like. Rich and successful parents typically produce rich and successful kids. Average parents beget average kids and average earners. And poor parent’s children will often live lives where there is never enough.

You can best be described as a setting on a thermostat. If you are set at 72° and for some reason the temperature drops to 68° your internal furnace (mind) will bring the temperature back up. Conversely, if the temperature rises to 74° the air conditioner (mind again) will come on to bring the temperature down 2 degrees. Your comfort zone is always set at the level your subconscious mind sees you at. Now does that mean it can’t be changed? No!

Most of how we view ourselves was not of our choosing. It came from our parents, teachers, siblings, friends and other family members. They may have told you that you wouldn’t amount to much. That you weren’t college material. That you should be happy with what you have, considering. That when brains were being passed out you were at the back of the line. These were things these people impressed upon you, and right or wrong you believed them and accepted them as the truth.

You, are so much more powerful than you think you are. You have the power to literally change your mind and I‘m not talking about making a different decision. I’m talking about seeing yourself as you truly are. Not how somebody else defined you. Start by writing a list of what others told you was true about you. Then take each one and write “the real truth.”

With Love,


You Are A Child Of God!

28 Feb

I sent this article out on two occasions last year but as I read through it again I was struck by how powerful it is and decided I needed to send it out once more. I apologize for the redundancy. I remember when I first came across this affirmation in the book Born Rich and fell in love with it. I not only printed it out so that I could read it throughout the day, but I recorded it on a cassette tape and would listen to it, over and over while I got ready in the morning. If your computer allows you to record I would suggest you record it to yourself, or if you want a different voice, ask a friend to record it. It’s so powerful, especially when you hear your name in it. Michael

In doing some research online I came across a magnificent author by the name of Orison Swett Marden (1850 – 1924). Mr. Marden is considered to be the founder of the modern success movement in the United States. In 1897 he founded Success Magazine that still exists today, 116 years later.

The positive affirmation below that I found in the book Born Rich, was originally written and published in Orison Swett Marden’s book, How to Get What You Want. The Born Rich version has been updated since the Marden version was originally written at the turn of the last century.

Now that I have my attributions correct let’s take a look at the affirmation. According to Wikipedia an affirmation is a declaration that something is true. As you read below I want you to believe that it is true of you. I know what you’re going to say, as you read it you are thinking, “This certainly isn’t me. In fact I am the exact opposite of this positive statement. I don’t think this will ever be me!”

And my answer to you is this, it will be you. Not today and probably not tomorrow. But if you continue to recite this affirmation daily, sooner than later, your mind will accept it as the truth. And when it is the truth you will become the David who slew Goliath. Able to achieve anything and everything you desire.

(Insert Your Name), you are a child of God and the being God made was never intended for the sort of weak, negative life you are leading. God made you for success, not failure.  You are perverting the great object of your existence by giving way to these miserable doubts of yourself, of your ability to be what you desire with all your heart to be. You should be ashamed to go out amongst your associates with a long, sad, dejected face, as though you were a misfit, as though you lacked creative power within, as though you did not have the ability to do what your creator sent you here to do. You were made to express what you long to express. Why not do this? Why not stand and walk like a conqueror, like David who slew Goliath, instead of giving way to fear, discouragement and doubt and carrying on like a failure? The image of perfection, the image of your creator lies within you. You must bring it to the center of your conscious thoughts and express it to the world. Don’t disgrace your maker by violating that image, by being anything but the magnificent success God intended for you to be.

With love,


The Power of Thank You

27 Feb

I begin each day reading a page or two out of A Course in Miracles. This is my bible, and like the Old and New Testaments, not always easy to understand.

What I like to do is before I begin I will ask Infinite Spirit to guide me to the topic that is most important for me to learn that day. I will then randomly open the book to a chapter or page. It is when I begin reading that I realize that what I am reading is exactly the information I needed to discover that day.

Today I opened A Course in Miracles to page 220 and Lesson 123, entitled I thank my Father for His gifts to me. It begins:

Today let us be thankful. We have come to gentler pathways and to smoother roads. There is no thought of turning back, and no implacable resistance to the truth. A bit of wavering remains, some small objections and a little hesitance, but you can well be grateful for your gains, which are far greater than you realize.

This and the remaining seven paragraphs in this lesson brought me great comfort and reminded me of how it is so important to be appreciative and grateful for all that God has given me. But it also reminds me that being thankful for what I receive also works to ask God, the Universe, Infinite Spirit, your higher power for what I desire in my life. And this is how I do that.

Instead of asking for a safe and enjoyable drive to my destination when I get into my car and put on my seat belt, I will often say; God, thank you for a safe and enjoyable drive to (my destination). May traffic flow perfectly all the way there.

If I’m going into a business meeting I will say; Thank you Infinite Spirit for a perfect meeting. And then I will describe what a perfect meeting means to me.

Try these over the next couple of days. As you begin to see the things you are grateful for start manifesting into your life – expand it to everything you desire.

With love,


Go Ahead – Take the First Step!

14 Feb

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will. ~W. Clement Stone

W. Clement Stone was the proverbial rags to riches story. At 16 years old he began selling insurance and built a business that became a billion dollar company. He was also the founder of Success magazine and hired Og Mandino to be his publisher. In 1960 he co-authored a book with Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, about Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) entitled Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude.

Fear can be one of the most paralyzing emotions known to mankind. It has been said that more people could survive airplane crashes, but fear keeps them frozen in their seats where they eventually die of smoke inhalation.

The fear that I am talking about is the fear conjured up in our minds that prevent us from taking action. Actions like: walking up to a stranger and introducing ourselves. Calling a stranger on the phone. Going to a party or networking event and carrying on simple conversations. Speaking our minds at community meetings. Sharing our ideas with co-workers and supervisors. These fears are only in the mind. They have no basis in fact, yet they prevent us from living the lives we deserve and dream about.

The best time to overpower a fear is right before you take action. Whatever it is you have to do or say you’ve already spent weeks worrying about, and making yourself miserable. Once you step through that fear you’ll find a calm that you never believed was there.

Will fear return? Probably. But once you know you can survive intact overpowering your fear you’ll be a bit more courageous the next time you face a fear, and the next.

Remember, you are much more powerful than you believe you are. You can do anything.

With love,


POWER – Our Deepest Fear!

2 Jan

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. ~Marianne Williamson

Marianne Williamson is the bestselling author of A Return to Love which is based upon A Course in Miracles. In fact, it was the reading of her fabulous book that turned me on to A Course in Miracles, and it was through ACIM that I found my own spirituality.

A Course in Miracles states that the opposite of love is fear. Ms. Williamson has chosen to write about love, and how it is our birthright and a gift of God that we should experience, not just sometimes, but all the time; perfect love. I, on the other hand, chose to write my first book on fear (Overpowering Fear – Defeating the #1 Challenge in Sales and Life) and how important it is for each of us to find the perfect love we seek by overpowering our fears. To think that the only thing that prevents us from experiencing constant joy and happiness is fear, and most fears are not real, but only the delusional thoughts in our minds.

The reason I love the above quote so much is because it reminds me so much of myself. And I’ll tell you why. So many of us see ourselves as less than perfect. Yes, we do some things well, but for the most part we see ourselves as flawed, inadequate, and just not good enough. Often, we are our own worst critic. I used to say to others when I screwed up; “You don’t have to beat me up. I can do a pretty good job of that myself. There is nothing you can say to me that I haven’t already said to myself multiple times.”

What Marianne is saying is what A Course in Miracles teaches us, that we are all children of God, and God does not create anything less than perfection. That our human self (ego) may convince us that we are not good enough, maybe not deserving enough, but according to God, we are. We fear our inadequacies because we are afraid to face what is the real truth, that each of us is a creator, bestowed by our creator with the tools necessary to create for ourselves a perfect life. We fear to pick-up the tools of power because we are afraid that we won’t know how to use that power.

For the New Year try to repeat this affirmation every day:

I am not weak, but Strong. I am not a loser, but a Winner. I am not helpless, but Powerful. For I am the Holy Son (Daughter) of God himself. And God made me powerful beyond measure. I accept my Power given to me by my Father.

To you and your best year ever,