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There is a Reason for Everything in Life

31 May

Many people believe that we live in a chaotic universe where we have absolutely no control over what comes into our life. I fervently disagree. I believe that God has a plan or function for each of us. Whether we achieve that plan or reach our function is entirely up to us.

We have each been blessed with the most wonderful of gifts; we are free to make our own choices in life. Each choice we make either moves us forward towards God’s plan for us or away from it. The good news is; we can make our own choices without any interference from our higher power. The bad news; we must live with any and all consequences from those choices (decisions). So always choose wisely.

But sometimes things just seem to happen to us and no amount of prayers or raging at the heavens can change that. As a kid I sucked at sports. At recess or during gym class I was always the last one picked for a team and then it was pure hell once the game got started to not screw-up and become a laughing stock amongst my classmates. I hated those moments, feeling the fear and helpless to do anything about it.

When I was 21 I was in a minor traffic accident, but came away experiencing some severe back pain. An orthopedist checked me out and then informed me that I had a congenital deformity in my lower back; a missing 5th lumbar vertebrae and a slight curvature to the right at the base, which caused one leg to be half-an-inch shorter than the other.  The reasons behind why I was such a hopeless athlete.

In explaining my problem he commented, “I have good news and bad news for you, Michael. The good news it will probably keep you out of the Vietnam War. The bad news is you are going to have severe back problems all your life. He was right on both scores. Because of my physical deformity, which caused me tremendous emotional pain as a child, the Army refused to accept me and sent me home. My name is not engraved on a black wall in Washington, D.C.

But, it has taken me a lifetime to finally understand God’s plan for me. My function was to live the life I lived, with all its good and all its pain, and to write and teach about it. And then to turn around on my path and reach out to all those behind me.

You are one of those behind me. Now it’s your turn to take my hand and let me help you overpower your fears and live the perfect life that is awaiting you.

With Love,


Other’s Lives Are Not Always What We Think

4 Jan

People assume I’m out there having this great life, but money doesn’t erase the pain. When you’re young you barrel through life, making choices without thinking of repercussions. A few years down the line, you wake up in a certain place and wonder how the hell you got there. – Jennifer Lopez

So beautiful, so talented, and so very much like each of us.

There are two very important lessons to be learned in today’s quote. So let’s talk about them.

I think growing up in America most of us share a common dream; to be rich, talented and famous. And the wonderful thing about this great country is that each of us has an equal opportunity to achieve what we seek. It’s the American Dream. Of course, we do need a little talent to begin with.

But there is a lie behind the dream. The lie is that once we attain our fame and riches our lives will somehow be perfect. We expect to be happy. We expect to magically overpower and face all of our fears and demons. We expect tranquility, but instead those who reach their dream often feel the same fears, doubts and uncertainties they did before they became famous.

Fame, fortune and notoriety may drive your ego to the point of arrogance, but it won’t change how you view yourself. Only you can make that change by controlling the thoughts you allow to take hold in your mind.

The other important lesson to be learned in today’s quote is this: every day you make hundreds, perhaps even thousands of decisions. Most you do unconsciously without much forethought. What should I have for lunch? Should I take the freeway or surface streets to work? Others we do consciously by giving more thought and consideration to the decision we will make; should I accept that position in Boston and how will this affect my family?

Each decision is a choice, and each choice has its consequences and repercussions. Some of those will be good, some bad and some dire. There is a name for this; we call it Cause and Effect. Every choice you make is a cause and what happens afterwards to you are its effects.

Ms. Lopez believes that it happens to you mostly when you’re young. I disagree. Unless you learn how cause and effect works in your life you will continue to make wrong, kneejerk choices. And those choices will bring into your life exactly what you don’t want.

So my advice: Think things through before you make your decision. Then choose wisely.

To your dreams and better choices,