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Who Does Your Ego Compare You To?

11 Apr

Let’s begin by understanding this; your ego is NOT your friend. Friends say and do things that make us feel good about ourselves. Egos say and do things that make us feel bad, sometimes real bad about ourselves.

Your ego is of the body. When you die your ego dies with you. It’s not something you can bequeath to others, nor would others want it. They’ve got their own egos to deal with. Our egos are there to constantly compare us, and our possessions, to others. They are the ones that remind us of all of our “not enoughs.”  You know the “not enoughs.” Not pretty enough. Not talented enough. Not creative enough. Not coordinated enough. Not smart enough. Not skinny enough. Not athletic enough. Just plain — not enough.

Now where does the ego get this garbage from? They get it from others. Others who have judged us, either rightly or wrongly. They are our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, school mates, teammates, teachers, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, employers and the list goes on and on. Sometimes these things have been told us with love, “Don’t worry about this honey; some kids are just better at math than others. You’ll be good at something else.” And sometimes, they have been told us with malice, “We don’t want Luckman on our team. He couldn’t catch the ball even if we put it in his hands.” Either way, your ego remembers all of these things and in an instant will remind you of them, and to hell with how these words make you feel.

As I said, your ego is not your friend. When faced with new challenges the first thing our ego does is to whisper to us, “You can’t do that. You’re not (fill in the blank) enough. You’ll be found out that you’re not too (fill in the blank). Everyone will laugh at you. You won’t be able to take the embarrassment and the humiliation. You’ll lose your job. You’ll lose your friends. Your life, as you know it, will be over.”

And with these words of “endearment” comes the fear. The fear that grips our hearts. The fear that becomes the knot in our bellies. The fear that sets our minds racing with one delusional thought after another. The fear that forces us to give up the things in our lives that we truly want and that we truly deserve. It is this fear that makes us compromise our dreams. The fear that makes us settle for less. This senseless irrational fear that keeps us plodding along the ground with the turkeys instead of soaring with the eagles where we truly belong.

We were each created for greatness if only, if only, we could overpower our fears.

With Love,

Michael

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The Fear of Being Not Enough!

3 Apr

It saddens me whenever I hear somebody say they’re not good enough at some thing or task. I think, who’s really telling them that? The person saying it or someone in their far distant past who convinced them that this was true?

Each of us carries with us these deep seated beliefs that we are in some way inferior to others. That “others” are better than us, smarter than us, more talented than us, more skilled than us, prettier than us, thinner than us and a host of other negative not enoughs. And, of course, the granddaddy of the bunch, not deserving enough.

As if there were two separate societies; the less deserving one that we live in and the privileged one for all those who are “enough.”

The fact is, everybody has this fear of being not enough in at least one area of their life; and it doesn’t matter how beautiful they are, how educated, how successful, how rich, or even how talented they may be.

The fear of being not enough prevents each of us from attaining what we truly desire and deserve. It often stops us in our tracks and prevents us from even trying. A Course in Miracles tells us that it is God’s wish that his children have everything. And who are we to argue with God.

The truth is: you are and always have been – enough!

With Love,

Michael

My “True Self” Knows No Limits

12 Dec

A Born Rich Affirmation: My “True Self” knows no limits; that in truth, I am quite capable of having, doing, or being virtually anything I desire to be.

It has been said over and over throughout recorded history that we, as human beings, are powerful beyond measure. That if we only recognized our divinity, our greatness, given to us by our creator, we could accomplish virtually anything. So, why are we not, these incredible creators of miracles?

According to A Course in Miracles, when we were born a veil came down blocking our remembrance of who we really were, the holy children of God. We took on the cloak of a human body that caused us to forget that we were divine, incredibly powerful and destined for a life of greatness.

You see, this human body came with two equally strong emotions; love and fear, plus a thinking mind and a built-in nemesis, the ego. In addition, we have been given the gift of free choice. God promised us that our gift of free choice would be unconditional, meaning that no choice we ever made would be judged by God.

But God did say that although we have free choice, we still must live with the consequences of our choices. And here lies the problem. We desire love but often let fear overwhelm us, especially when the ego speaks up and sides with fear. Then it reminds us of all our past wrong choices and all our “not good enough” beliefs about ourselves. And, so we settle for a life of littleness even though our Father promised us a life of Greatness.

All of the above is the bad news. Now here is the good news. You can change your life this very moment. And you do it by changing your thoughts. No longer do you have to accept negative delusional thoughts that lock you in fear. Decide now to monitor what you are thinking. This is actually quite simple. Positive thoughts give you feelings of joy and happiness. Negative thoughts create the fear you feel in your body. Next time you are feeling fear stop and examine what you are thinking. Once identified as a negative thought replace it with a positive one. And this is how you do it.

Say out loud: “(Your higher power) I cast the burden of this negative thought about _______ on you, and I go free. I ask that you replace this thought with a positive thought about _______.

To your Greatness,

Michael