Check Your Ego at the Door

Check your ego at the door and check your gut instead. Every right decision I have ever made has come from my gut. ~Oprah Winfrey

If you read my book Overpowering Fear – Defeating the #1 Challenge in Sales and Life you’ll know that I don’t think much of the ego, yours or mine.

Your ego is not your friend. Its sole purpose is to compare you to others. And when that happens you’re either going to win or lose. If your ego finds you superior to another or another’s possessions, you feel good about yourself. If your ego finds you lacking compared to another you feel terrible. There is no in-between.

Whenever you make a decision based upon what your ego is telling you the probability that you’ll make the wrong decision is at its highest. But when you allow intuition to guide you, you can almost never be wrong.

Intuition communicates through your gut. When you make the right decision your gut speaks to you through your heart, and makes it sing. It’s at that moment that you know you made the RIGHT decision.

Love,

Michael

Never Apologize for Your Feelings!

Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

I believe that there is so much meaning in the above quote that I suggest you read it over several times. And as you do try to think about the times in your life where you may have been apologetic about the way you were feeling. Were you being true to your feelings, or were you embarrassed and maybe even a little ashamed at how you felt?

I am a layman when it comes to the human body but I do know that our feelings are generated within the different areas of our brain. But for this example, I would rather speak to the emotional center of our feelings, and that is our hearts. It is within our hearts that we feel the emotional turmoil created when we lie about what we are actually feeling.

They always say that the heart speaks the truth, and I accept this. All I have to do is remember how a lost love or a betrayal by someone close to me made me feel. It was as if my heart was literally breaking in two.

Unlike our fellow animals that survive on instinct alone we have both instinct and a reasoning brain. And as modern human beings we rely more on that reasoning brain than we do on our million year old instincts. Which is truly a shame.

In our reasoning brain we can logically defend many sides of an argument. And make a choice that may not be true, but it fits how we feel at the time. But it is the heart – the seat of our intuition – that is never wrong.

Very often we do apologize for how we are feeling. We do it because we are afraid. We may be afraid of getting another person angry at us or causing another to stop liking or even loving us. We do it because others may say things like, “Man up.” “Just like a woman to cry.” “Hey, this is a tough world. Get over it.” “You’re acting like a baby.” But we are also hurting.

I think the world would be a better place, and our lives a bit more tranquil, if we accepted how we’re feeling and in the right circumstances and time, we shared it with those who have hurt us. After all, it is our truth.

With Love,

Michael