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Never Apologize for Your Feelings!

13 Mar

Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

I believe that there is so much meaning in the above quote that I suggest you read it over several times. And as you do try to think about the times in your life where you may have been apologetic about the way you were feeling. Were you being true to your feelings, or were you embarrassed and maybe even a little ashamed at how you felt?

I am a layman when it comes to the human body but I do know that our feelings are generated within the different areas of our brain. But for this example, I would rather speak to the emotional center of our feelings, and that is our hearts. It is within our hearts that we feel the emotional turmoil created when we lie about what we are actually feeling.

They always say that the heart speaks the truth, and I accept this. All I have to do is remember how a lost love or a betrayal by someone close to me made me feel. It was as if my heart was literally breaking in two.

Unlike our fellow animals that survive on instinct alone we have both instinct and a reasoning brain. And as modern human beings we rely more on that reasoning brain than we do on our million year old instincts. Which is truly a shame.

In our reasoning brain we can logically defend many sides of an argument. And make a choice that may not be true, but it fits how we feel at the time. But it is the heart – the seat of our intuition – that is never wrong.

Very often we do apologize for how we are feeling. We do it because we are afraid. We may be afraid of getting another person angry at us or causing another to stop liking or even loving us. We do it because others may say things like, “Man up.” “Just like a woman to cry.” “Hey, this is a tough world. Get over it.” “You’re acting like a baby.” But we are also hurting.

I think the world would be a better place, and our lives a bit more tranquil, if we accepted how we’re feeling and in the right circumstances and time, we shared it with those who have hurt us. After all, it is our truth.

With Love,


You Couldn’t Ask for a Better Habit!

10 Dec

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.  ~Aristotle

What’s the first thing you think of when you read the above Aristotle quote? For me, it’s the word “choice” that pops up in my mind. Why choice? I think it’s because we have been given the greatest of all gifts by our creator. We have been given the gift of free choice. We can choose one thing over another, or we can choose nothing. This in its own way is a choice.

Most animals rely on instinct. And we too have and use instinct. Although most of the time we don’t follow the signals our body sends to us. We’re actually too smart for that. Preferring to rationally think things through. “Rationally” being the key word.

Every single day of our lives we make hundreds, maybe even thousands of choices.  And the majority of them we give but a nano-seconds worth of thought to. What cereal do I want to eat this morning? The light is turning to yellow, do I want to speed up and sneak through or do I want to stop? And then there are those that we should give added thought to before we decide, like, do I want to say that to her even though it will likely hurt her feelings?

Whenever we take on a new responsibility, a new job, a new assignment, we have a choice as to the quality of our output. We can strive for excellence or take the easier route, with the belief that good, is good enough. If we can consistently choose excellence, although harder and more time consuming, it then becomes something that we repeatedly do, like shaving and putting on make-up, and thus becomes a habit. A very good habit to have.

If I can offer you one bit of advice today, it would be choose wisely. Think things through before you choose. And always remember, choices have consequences.

And if you have children at home take the time to teach them how to make the right choices for themselves. Teach them the Universal Law of Cause and Effect. Then whenever they leave the house, tell them how much you love them, and to always choose wisely.

My love to you,