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You’re Just Not Being Realistic

10 Jun

Have you ever shared your future dreams with someone and instead of sharing your excitement declared to you that; “you probably won’t succeed and you’re just not being realistic? How did this make you feel?

Not being realistic is a crutch that negative people rely on. Reality for these people is to   see everything as bleak. The cup is half-empty and maybe not even that much. They don’t take risks because they might fail. And they don’t want their family and friends to succeed because, one, they would be envious and jealous of your success and two, they might lose you to a better life.

If you hear this “be realistic,” line, remember this: They’re afraid that with your success you might move to a better neighborhood. Start shopping in upscale stores. Take wonderful vacations. Send your children to private schools. Donate to charities. In essence, live the life that you create through your thoughts and your belief that you can have everything you want, and more. Your best interests scare the hell out of them. And so, they will tell you that you’re a dreamer. Not living in the real world. Not being realistic.

How many people do you know like this? I’ll bet plenty. It could be the very reason you remain friends with them, because misery loves company. But what happens when you throw off the shackles of poor me and truly believe you can accomplish great things?

When fear does not stand in your way. When the future is made up of countless opportunities. And opportunities will come to you because you will attract them into your life with your new found optimism. These people will become a weight on you that you will no longer choose to bear. Consider off-loading these people.

Every successful person. Every great inventor. Every person who has ever risen from poverty to riches had to face the people in their lives who would drag them down. They’ve said to themselves, I can no longer be close with this person. I can no longer allow this person to hold me down. Successful people do not allow negative people into their lives. Even family.