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You Only Have One Life!

18 Nov

Luckman’s Law: The bad news: you only have one life. The good news: you can start living your perfect life anytime you choose. Make that choice NOW!

How many people do you know who are always complaining about their life? Their past was a dismal failure. They grieve for all the things they should have done and could have done.  And their future is even scarier for they fear it will be a repeat of their past. You may even be one of these people.

Well, the past is gone. There is not a thing any of us can do about it. But there is good news. Each of us has been given the gift to change our circumstances and consequently the life we are living at any given moment — we decide. Yes, we all have that POWER.

You are not helpless. You have just forgotten how really powerful you are. Decide this very moment to reclaim your power. And this is how you do it.

Change your thoughts

Right now you may feel scared and uncertain about your life. And all that fear comes from the thoughts you dwell upon. When feeling down and dejected ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” My guess, it is a negative thought. Now let go of the thought. First, thank it for coming to you and then let it go. Now, replace it with a positive thought. You may say, “Thank you for this thought about (__________). I now let go of this thought and replace it with this thought (_____________).” And, don’t say it doesn’t work for you. It works for everyone. Just give it time.

At the beginning you might think it’s not working because that voice in your head says it won’t. That voice is your ego and your ego is not your friend. It wants you to fail. The more you do this the less you’ll hear from your ego.

Use these two most important words “I Am” to declare to the Universe your perfection. Repeat these positive affirmations as often as you can throughout the day.

I am Powerful.

I am a Winner.

I am Smart.

I am Talented.

I am Lovable.

I am Exceptional.

I am Perfect.

I am Deserving of Everything.

Make up your own “I am” statements. It’s easy and they work.

Love,

Michael

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Someday I’m going to have everything I want!

9 Oct

Are you a someday kind of person?

You know, whenever you’re asked what’s going on in your life you respond with, “not much. But, someday I’m going to (you fill in the blank).”

When you hear yourself repeating a litany of somedays you might get the feeling that these could possibly be your true desires. Well, let me tell you this; they are your true desires.

They are what you’d really like to be, do or have in your life, but life just keeps getting in the way.

The problem is this, that until you turn a someday into a goal it will always be sitting out their never to be reached.

Look into your bag of somedays. What do you see? Most likely you see your dreams. Now, remove the clutter. You know that fantasy you have of pitching for the San Francisco Giants or dating Denzel Washington.

Now choose a someday. Something you would really like to create and have in your life. Like owning your own business. Or, finding the perfect job.

Next turn that someday into a SMART goal: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound. Then follow your path to completion.

And always remember: Today Is Yesterday’s Someday.

With Love,

Michael

People Who Rain on Our Parade

23 Sep

Have you ever had a great idea: for a new product, a new job, a new business, or even a move to another locale? You’re excited about whatever you have chosen, and can’t wait to share it with others.

And so you tell a friend or a family member and instead of getting a positive response that will reinforce your decision you get something like this. “What makes you think you can start a business? Don’t you know we’re in a recession? It takes a long time to get a business off the ground. You tried that once and you failed miserably.” “You want a new car? Can you afford it? Remember you’ve only been on your job 6 months.” “This is who you chose for a spouse? You can do much better than this. Why rush?”

What did it feel like when you heard those comments? I’ll bet they were painful. And I’ll bet even more that they made you feel lost, confused and fearful.

You started doubting yourself and your new idea. Then you probably said to yourself maybe it wasn’t such a good idea after all.

Why do people do this? When asked, most naysayers will tell you that they just want to help. That they want to prevent you from making a mistake. So they feel this compulsion to point out your past follies, mistakes and failures.

And if you challenge them they’ll usually reply with, “You’re just not being realistic!”

Bull. What’s really being said is, “I’m jealous. If you succeed you probably won’t be friends with me anymore. You’ll move out of the neighborhood and won’t ever come back. Your success will make me feel like a failure. My life will be ruined.”

So the next time you’ve got a great idea and someone rains on your parade, instead of feeling fear, take a good hard look at the person telling you these negative things. Then ask yourself, “Is this someone whose advice I value?” If the answer is no get away from them as quickly as possible. They’ll just bring you down.

Love,

Michael

Do You Put Limits on Your Dreams?

9 Aug

You might look at the title of this article and think, “Who would ever put limits on their dreams? That’s crazy. I’d never do that.” But you do it all the time and you’re not alone. Just about everyone limits their dreams. Some even do it every day. And most don’t even know when they’re doing it.

An interesting truth: According to A Course in Miracles each of us was born for Magnitude, but often accept Littleness because we don’t believe we deserve the Greatness and the Glory that comes with Magnitude.

From A Course in Miracles: “Be not content with littleness, but be sure you understand what littleness is, and why you could never BE content with it. Littleness is the offering you gave YOURSELF. You offered this in place of magnitude, AND ACCEPTED IT. Everything in this world is little, because it is a world made out of littleness, in the strange belief that littleness CAN content you. When you strive for anything in the world, WITH THE BELIEF THAT IT WILL BRING YOU PEACE, you are belittling yourself, and blinding yourself to glory. Littleness and glory are the choices open to your striving and your vigilance. You will ALWAYS choose one AT THE EXPENSE of the other.”

“God is not willing that His Children be content with less than everything.”

Let me explain how we go about choosing Littleness over Glory and Greatness. We do it with our thoughts and our deepest beliefs about ourselves. The secrets about ourselves that we would never share with others. And the biggest secret of all is that we don’t believe that we deserve to have, be and do everything we desire. How did this happen?

Each of us was born perfect; then our parents, other family members, teachers and even our friends and siblings got ahold of us. They defined us. They told us what we were good at and what things to avoid because we lacked the smarts or the talents to succeed. They might have told us to find a good job after high school because we weren’t college material. That we shouldn’t wait for our prince or princess because, “Hey, just look in the mirror!” They warned us to put our childish dreams away because what we were seeking didn’t happen for people “like” us. They may have even admonished you to stop dreaming and be realistic. And, so you accepted a life of Littleness instead of the plan God had for you of Magnitude, Glory and Greatness.

I expect that a number of you reading this will adamantly disagree with my theory. You’ll say, “Not me. Never.” And maybe it isn’t you. But, here is the perfect way to find out if it is true for you. Monitor your speech and feelings. If you refuse invitations because you’re uncomfortable and beg off. It’s true. If someone suggests a perfect opportunity for you but the first thing that comes to mind is fear and belief that you’ll fail. It’s true. If you ever respond to a suggestion by saying, “I’m never been good at that.” It’s true. If you still have dreams but you let fear stand in your way. It’s true. If you’re embarrassed by a compliment. It’s true.

But the truth is not always real. It’s just what you believe.

With Love,

Michael

You’re Just Not Being Realistic

10 Jun

Have you ever shared your future dreams with someone and instead of sharing your excitement declared to you that; “you probably won’t succeed and you’re just not being realistic? How did this make you feel?

Not being realistic is a crutch that negative people rely on. Reality for these people is to   see everything as bleak. The cup is half-empty and maybe not even that much. They don’t take risks because they might fail. And they don’t want their family and friends to succeed because, one, they would be envious and jealous of your success and two, they might lose you to a better life.

If you hear this “be realistic,” line, remember this: They’re afraid that with your success you might move to a better neighborhood. Start shopping in upscale stores. Take wonderful vacations. Send your children to private schools. Donate to charities. In essence, live the life that you create through your thoughts and your belief that you can have everything you want, and more. Your best interests scare the hell out of them. And so, they will tell you that you’re a dreamer. Not living in the real world. Not being realistic.

How many people do you know like this? I’ll bet plenty. It could be the very reason you remain friends with them, because misery loves company. But what happens when you throw off the shackles of poor me and truly believe you can accomplish great things?

When fear does not stand in your way. When the future is made up of countless opportunities. And opportunities will come to you because you will attract them into your life with your new found optimism. These people will become a weight on you that you will no longer choose to bear. Consider off-loading these people.

Every successful person. Every great inventor. Every person who has ever risen from poverty to riches had to face the people in their lives who would drag them down. They’ve said to themselves, I can no longer be close with this person. I can no longer allow this person to hold me down. Successful people do not allow negative people into their lives. Even family.

Love,

Michael

Who Does Your Ego Compare You To?

11 Apr

Let’s begin by understanding this; your ego is NOT your friend. Friends say and do things that make us feel good about ourselves. Egos say and do things that make us feel bad, sometimes real bad about ourselves.

Your ego is of the body. When you die your ego dies with you. It’s not something you can bequeath to others, nor would others want it. They’ve got their own egos to deal with. Our egos are there to constantly compare us, and our possessions, to others. They are the ones that remind us of all of our “not enoughs.”  You know the “not enoughs.” Not pretty enough. Not talented enough. Not creative enough. Not coordinated enough. Not smart enough. Not skinny enough. Not athletic enough. Just plain — not enough.

Now where does the ego get this garbage from? They get it from others. Others who have judged us, either rightly or wrongly. They are our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, school mates, teammates, teachers, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, employers and the list goes on and on. Sometimes these things have been told us with love, “Don’t worry about this honey; some kids are just better at math than others. You’ll be good at something else.” And sometimes, they have been told us with malice, “We don’t want Luckman on our team. He couldn’t catch the ball even if we put it in his hands.” Either way, your ego remembers all of these things and in an instant will remind you of them, and to hell with how these words make you feel.

As I said, your ego is not your friend. When faced with new challenges the first thing our ego does is to whisper to us, “You can’t do that. You’re not (fill in the blank) enough. You’ll be found out that you’re not too (fill in the blank). Everyone will laugh at you. You won’t be able to take the embarrassment and the humiliation. You’ll lose your job. You’ll lose your friends. Your life, as you know it, will be over.”

And with these words of “endearment” comes the fear. The fear that grips our hearts. The fear that becomes the knot in our bellies. The fear that sets our minds racing with one delusional thought after another. The fear that forces us to give up the things in our lives that we truly want and that we truly deserve. It is this fear that makes us compromise our dreams. The fear that makes us settle for less. This senseless irrational fear that keeps us plodding along the ground with the turkeys instead of soaring with the eagles where we truly belong.

We were each created for greatness if only, if only, we could overpower our fears.

With Love,

Michael

Don’t Listen to the Critics!

27 Mar

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat. ~Theodore Roosevelt

I’m not crazy about critics. From the professionals, like the political pundits, to well-meaning friends and family. I have always had tremendous respect for the doer, the one who has the idea, believes in themself and risks fame and fortune to follow their dream. I’ve always thought of critics as those who stand on the sidelines, scared to death to get into the game, but more than willing to criticize and condemn those that had the guts to try.

Have you ever had an idea for a new business or a new product or service? If you have, then you know how thinking about your new venture brings incredible feelings of joy, enthusiasm and confidence. That is, until you share your idea with others; co-workers, friends and close family members.

You’re waiting for them to agree with you and tell you how great your idea is and how it will revolutionize the world. But instead you hear things like this; “You’re going to do what? Start a business? What makes you think you can start and run a business? Especially in this economy.” Or, “That’s the stupidest idea I ever heard. Nobody would spend money for something like that.” And then what happens. In a split second your joyful emotions are dashed on the rocks. Your self-confidence drops in free fall, and you begin to doubt yourself.

With friends and family like this you certainly don’t need any enemies. But why are they saying these things to you rather than sharing your excitement? I believe it is because they’re scared. You see they too have dreams of what they want to accomplish in their lives. But for them they’ll always be just dreams, because they’ll never overpower their fears and get into the arena.

But, you’ve made the choice to enter the arena. You have your fears but you’re willing to face them, overpower them, and do everything within your power to succeed. And so they’re jealous. Jealous you just might succeed while they never will. And it’s more than they can bear. So instead of supporting you they prefer to destroy your dreams.

Don’t listen to them. Follow your heart. Overpower your fears. And, you will not only change yourself but you will change the world.

With Love,

Michael