Archive | April, 2013

What You Are Thinking is What You Are Feeling!

25 Apr

What Are You Thinking?

Let’s begin with some bad news. Social scientists report that you have around 60,000 thoughts in a day. Of which, 54,000 can be classified as negative. The remaining 6,000 thoughts are positive.

It’s been said that you are what you think, so do the math. For every positive thought you have in a day you think nine negative ones. NINE! No wonder our mantra is, “Same crap, different day!”

But it’s not just the trash talking thoughts about you that you thought today. You’re the sum total of every thought you have entertained going back to when you were a young child. And, every negative comment you’ve heard others say to you or about you.

Think you’re a klutz? You’ll be tripping over things. Think you’re stupid? You’re almost guaranteed to fail the test. Think you are a procrastinator? Nothing will ever get done. Think you have two left feet? You’ll never learn to dance. Think you’re poor? You’ll never get rich.

We become exactly what we think.

What Are You Feeling?

Here’s some more bad news for you. If you are feeling sad, lonely, fearful, dejected, doubtful, worried – you can thank those 54,000 negative thoughts. Yes, it’s true. Negative thoughts create negative feelings.

I suggest everyone learn to monitor their thoughts and replace every negative thought with a positive one. Now that you know a negative thought will generate a negative feeling it is easy to monitor and change the wrong thought to the right one.

Change your thoughts and you change your mind. Change your mind and you change your life.

With Love,



For Those Who Risk!

24 Apr

Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spires who neither enjoy much nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows not victory or defeat. ~Theodore Roosevelt

One of the reasons I love quotes by President Roosevelt is because they are chock full of common sense. But then again common sense is not always so common.

Teddy Roosevelt was a doer, whether it was charging up San Juan Hill or creating the National Park Service, and a man of action. He believed that man was created to push past his “so called” limits and to aspire for greatness. He didn’t have much patience for those who stood on the sidelines of life.

How many people do you know who sprinkle their conversations with somedays, as in: “Someday, I’m going to own my own business.” “Someday, I’m going to go back and finish my degree.” “Someday, when things settle down I’m going to really get involved in my kid’s lives.” For these people I would say; today is yesterday’s someday. If not now, when?

Life is risk. We never know what’s beyond the next bend in the road. But to avoid all risk is to not ever know how truly powerful we are. To live in our comfort zones, safe and secure, is to never really know what living is about.

We have been created to create. To try new things. To learn new things. To grow. To even fail, but to get back up and re-enter the ring.

You only have this one life. Why not create the life you have always dreamed of having. Don’t wait. There is always another bend in the road coming up.

With Love,


Driving Your Business!

23 Apr

Drive thy business or it will drive thee. ~Benjamin Franklin

To think, that a man who lived and died over 200 years ago could be quoted on practical matters in 2013 — and that his words are as true today as they were when he first spoke them.

We think of Benjamin Franklin as one of our country’s founding fathers, remembering him as a great statesman of a fledgling country. But Ben Franklin was much more than that. He was also a writer, printer, publisher, newspaper owner, the first political cartoonist, scientist, inventor, environmentalist, civic leader and businessman. As a serial entrepreneur it seemed that everything he did he succeeded at.

Born a common man, Benjamin Franklin epitomizes what our country has become – a nation of opportunities for all its citizens. Where, with an idea and the willingness to work hard any individual could go from rags to riches in just a matter of years. And not only did he find success in his own businesses, but helped others to succeed by franchising his printing operations to others to open print shops in other cities. Mr. Franklin would be very comfortable living and working today in Silicon Valley.

With all his various quotations you may wonder why I chose this one to write about today. I chose it because in my many years in business and in assisting other business owners, I saw how people who started their business with the best of intentions, soon became slaves to these very enterprises. Devoting their lives to their work and  missing out on the very things that bring true meaning to life; a loving relationship, children, God, community and hopefully upon death to be called a “Mensch,” a good person.

Probably no one that you meet today will have as much business experience as Benjamin Franklin. So take his advice to heart. Drive your business. Work hard. But don’t forget that work is only a small part of life.

With Love,


I Wish You Wouldn’t Talk to Me Like That!

22 Apr

Let’s pretend that you had a friend that you liked and felt connected to, but every day when they spoke to you they said things that weren’t very nice. In fact, some of the things they told you could be downright nasty, negative and hurtful.

They might have told you that your clothes didn’t look good on you. That you were putting on weight and soon nothing would fit.

When you had an idea that you thought you’d like to pursue they told you all the reasons why you would most likely fail. Why it wouldn’t work. They might even question your intelligence by calling you stupid or dumb.

At work they might remind you that your talents are few and it probably would be smart not to ask for a raise or promotion. Just stay where you are and be happy you have a job.

If you’re interested in somebody of the opposite sex they might remind you not to get your hopes up too high, considering all your past romances that failed. They may even tell you that the person you’re interested in is out of your league. To settle for someone more like you.

Now let me ask you this, would you continue to be friends with this person considering how they talk to you? I’m sure your answer would be no. Perhaps HELL NO! You would want nothing to do with this person. Because they are certainly not your friend.

Well this “friend” is not easy to get rid of, because this friend is you. For so many, this is how you speak to yourself. You don’t need someone else to tell you these hurtful things because you do a damn good job of beating yourself up and tearing yourself down.

This is your ego talking to you and this must STOP!!! And the first thing you must do is realize that practically everything you say to yourself is a LIE. Yes a lie. Told to you over and over again by someone else; your parents, grandparents, other relatives, friends, siblings, classmates and even teachers. Sometimes it was said to you with love and sometimes with malice, with the intent to hurt you. You accepted these lies about yourself and now you believe them as the truth. But they are not the truth. Never have been and never will be.

If you only knew how truly powerful you are, you wouldn’t put up with this incessant mind numbing garbage for one minute longer.

Just remember your greatest power: You can literally change your thoughts. And when you change your thoughts you change your life.

With Love,


Michael’s Law of Deliberate Manifestation

15 Apr

Have you ever thought of what your life would be like if you could be, do and have everything that you have ever wanted? Of course you have. These are the things you dream of.

But until you do something to manifest those dreams into reality they remain just wishful thinking.

What prevents most of us from turning these dreams into reality? Typically it is fear. Fear that we may not reach our goals. Fear that we may fail. Fear of the embarrassment that failure brings. Fear that we are asking for too much. Fear that if we did succeed it would complicate our lives. Fear that we would lose the ones we love. And probably the biggest fear of all; that if we did not succeed it would prove what we always believed about our self – that we didn’t deserve to have what we were seeking.

The truth is we were created by our maker to have everything. Yes, EVERYTHING! In the book A Course in Miracles it says, “That it is not that we ask God for too much, but that we ask him for too little.” And so we live lives of littleness, rather than the magnitude that we were created for.

The Law of Deliberate Manifestation goes hand in hand with the Law of Attraction. Both are universal laws that work to create the things in our lives. And to do this, to manifest our dreams, we need to change our thoughts from those of fear and limitation to those of abundance and unlimited possibilities. And here are steps you can master to do just that:

First, decide what you want. The Universe does not recognize size. It will provide you a mansion just as easily as a one room shack down by the railroad tracks. So, dream big.

Second, ask the Universe for exactly what you want. The greater the detail the easier it is to manifest. If it’s a new home you desire begin by seeing the home you want in your mind. If you have a picture of the home of your dreams this becomes even easier. Now create a movie of it in your mind staring you. Walk up to the front door and open it. How are you feeling? Try to get your emotions going. Think of this house in your mind as your house. You own it. Now walk through your house and experience what it feels like to be in each room. Go out to the backyard and see yourself with your family and friends as you BBQ Sunday’s dinner. Experience the joy and pride you’ll feel.

You can do this for whatever you desire; the perfect job, the perfect soul mate, the perfect business.

And third, never waiver from what you want. Hold the picture in your mind and be patient. What you ask for will manifest in your life. It has to. It’s the LAW.

With Love,


I’m Sorry – I Can’t Hear You!

12 Apr

What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I think just about everyone knows someone who on Sunday asks God for forgiveness for their sins, and then on Monday begins to do once again the things that drove them to the confessional in the first place. Very often these are the people who wear their moral values on their sleeve, and want everyone else to live by them. That is, everyone but themselves.

Newt Gingrich, the former Speaker of the House of Representatives is one such person. In his days as Speaker, Newt lead the impeachment process against former president Bill Clinton based upon his affair with Monica Lewinsky. To Newt this was the epitome of moral degradation.

Being morally indignant only works if there are no skeletons in your own closet. Otherwise it smacks of hypocrisy. Unfortunately for Newt this was the case.

While married to his first wife Newt was having an affair with his second wife. He divorced number one to marry number two. While he was leading the push for President Clinton’s impeachment for moral impropriety he was having an affair with Callista, who in 2000 became wife number three.

But then when he was running for president last year he changed his religion and found God. Because of my spiritual beliefs I will never question a man’s belief in a higher power. In fact, I suggest everyone strengthen their own relationship. No, the only thing that offends me is hypocrisy. And, old Newt has plenty of that.

Note to Callista; I’d be keeping a close eye on Newt. It’s about that time again.

With Love,


Who Does Your Ego Compare You To?

11 Apr

Let’s begin by understanding this; your ego is NOT your friend. Friends say and do things that make us feel good about ourselves. Egos say and do things that make us feel bad, sometimes real bad about ourselves.

Your ego is of the body. When you die your ego dies with you. It’s not something you can bequeath to others, nor would others want it. They’ve got their own egos to deal with. Our egos are there to constantly compare us, and our possessions, to others. They are the ones that remind us of all of our “not enoughs.”  You know the “not enoughs.” Not pretty enough. Not talented enough. Not creative enough. Not coordinated enough. Not smart enough. Not skinny enough. Not athletic enough. Just plain — not enough.

Now where does the ego get this garbage from? They get it from others. Others who have judged us, either rightly or wrongly. They are our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, school mates, teammates, teachers, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, employers and the list goes on and on. Sometimes these things have been told us with love, “Don’t worry about this honey; some kids are just better at math than others. You’ll be good at something else.” And sometimes, they have been told us with malice, “We don’t want Luckman on our team. He couldn’t catch the ball even if we put it in his hands.” Either way, your ego remembers all of these things and in an instant will remind you of them, and to hell with how these words make you feel.

As I said, your ego is not your friend. When faced with new challenges the first thing our ego does is to whisper to us, “You can’t do that. You’re not (fill in the blank) enough. You’ll be found out that you’re not too (fill in the blank). Everyone will laugh at you. You won’t be able to take the embarrassment and the humiliation. You’ll lose your job. You’ll lose your friends. Your life, as you know it, will be over.”

And with these words of “endearment” comes the fear. The fear that grips our hearts. The fear that becomes the knot in our bellies. The fear that sets our minds racing with one delusional thought after another. The fear that forces us to give up the things in our lives that we truly want and that we truly deserve. It is this fear that makes us compromise our dreams. The fear that makes us settle for less. This senseless irrational fear that keeps us plodding along the ground with the turkeys instead of soaring with the eagles where we truly belong.

We were each created for greatness if only, if only, we could overpower our fears.

With Love,


What is Your God Given Talent?

10 Apr

My first real sales job came when I was fifteen years old working at Mr. Junior, a boy’s clothing store on the north side of Chicago. I loved it. Within a year of starting at Mr. Junior a new men’s clothing store opened up within walking distance of my house. I applied for and got a job at Kassner’s California Men’s Store. It wasn’t kids’ clothes anymore. It was the big time. I was selling men’s clothing to men and women who valued my services and liked the fact that I had a flare for putting together just the right look. And what I mean by that was I could sell the husband a suit, then take them over to the dress shirts and find just the right shirt to go with the suit, then the perfect tie and then a new pair of dress shoes. I suggested and they bought. I could up-sell and cross-sell, before I even knew what those phrases meant. Hey, at the time I was only 16 years old.

It’s funny; I don’t know where this talent came from. The joke in our family, even to this day, was that as a family we were devoid of talent. Nobody could sing, nobody could dance, most of us when it came to art could only draw stick figures (certainly me), no one had a gift for writing and no one had any musical talent. So where did this talent for putting together outfits and matching and blending colors come from? Maybe it was in my blood since I come from a long line of merchants.

And maybe it was just a God given talent, although I wouldn’t know what it was called. Either way I loved what I was doing and it probably helped that I really liked people and truly enjoyed helping them.

As I grew older I met other people who shared my belief that they were talentless. I shared their pain, so-to-speak. In my forties I took a spiritual path and began discovering my own talents, ones I never believed I had. The more I was willing to try new things by overpowering my fears, the more I realized that I was blessed with a number of talents. Writing being one of them.

Today, I believe that each of us has been blessed with at least one unique talent, just waiting for us. Overpower your fears and you’ll soon discover your talents, hiding in plain sight.

With Love,


The Terror of Indecision!

9 Apr

The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision. – Maimonides

How many people reading this article suffer from the fear of making a decision? I believe the number is a lot higher than we think. Why is it so hard for these people to make a decision? What are they afraid of?

I believe it’s not the fear of making the decision these people shy away from, but the fear of making the wrong decision. And, if we went back to their childhoods I think we would find the answer.

If you were raised in a household where your parents or guardians judged your every choice, and chastised and berated you when your choice differed from theirs, there is a very good chance that the seeds of fear of making a decision were planted.

One of the most wonderful gifts given to human beings by our creator is the gift of free choice. We are the only animal alive that experiences conscious thought and the capacity to reason. And by that I mean the ability to weigh one thing against another and decide which would be the better choice.

But if you as a child lived in fear of angering your parents or another adult you would constantly live with the dread of making the wrong choice. And so you were forced to live with the terror of indecision. But you can change.

As human beings we learn by trial and error. Watch as an infant learns to roll over from their back to their stomach. Their chubby little arms thrash around until finally they put enough strength behind it to turn their body ever so slightly. And then, using all their strength, they finally pull their body over until they are successfully lying on their stomach. Learning never changes. We try. We fail. We try again and again until we succeed.

If you are frozen in place by the fear of making the wrong decision remember; you are only human. You must risk making the wrong decision if you ever want to succeed. And here is the best part; you don’t have to make your decisions alone.

You have been blessed with a higher power that is always there with you. I will often use my higher power, which I refer to as Infinite Spirit, to help me make the best decision. This is what I say:

“Infinite Spirit, Guide me and help me to make the best decision involving (blank). I desire to always make the best choices for myself.”

It may sound simple, but believe me, it works.

With Love,


Thoughts From an Incredible Woman

8 Apr

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot. ~Eleanor Roosevelt 

Eleanor Roosevelt was truly an amazing woman and first lady. The forerunner of today’s modern first lady. She was a brilliant woman with progressive ideas and a willingness to share her ideas about racial issues and human rights. She was the first first lady to hold her own press conferences, write a syndicated newspaper column and openly disagree with her husband’s policies. After the death of her husband, Franklin Delano Roosevelt in April 1945, she continued her political career as an advocate for both feminist and human rights.

Beyond her very public life Mrs. Roosevelt believed in the power of the human spirit. Many of her quotes, like the one above, attest to her belief that each of us is much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for. She believed in the common man, and the rights given to us by our creator.

It is obvious by her words in today’s quote that she knew and understood fear, and how damaging it can be to an individual’s desire to live the life of their dreams. She knew fear was not real, and that strength, courage and confidence come from standing up and looking fear in the face. Then overpowering it by doing that which we believe we cannot do.

Can you imagine what are lives would be like if each of us had Eleanor Roosevelt as our mother?

With Love,