Other’s Lives Are Not Always What We Think

4 Jan

People assume I’m out there having this great life, but money doesn’t erase the pain. When you’re young you barrel through life, making choices without thinking of repercussions. A few years down the line, you wake up in a certain place and wonder how the hell you got there. – Jennifer Lopez

So beautiful, so talented, and so very much like each of us.

There are two very important lessons to be learned in today’s quote. So let’s talk about them.

I think growing up in America most of us share a common dream; to be rich, talented and famous. And the wonderful thing about this great country is that each of us has an equal opportunity to achieve what we seek. It’s the American Dream. Of course, we do need a little talent to begin with.

But there is a lie behind the dream. The lie is that once we attain our fame and riches our lives will somehow be perfect. We expect to be happy. We expect to magically overpower and face all of our fears and demons. We expect tranquility, but instead those who reach their dream often feel the same fears, doubts and uncertainties they did before they became famous.

Fame, fortune and notoriety may drive your ego to the point of arrogance, but it won’t change how you view yourself. Only you can make that change by controlling the thoughts you allow to take hold in your mind.

The other important lesson to be learned in today’s quote is this: every day you make hundreds, perhaps even thousands of decisions. Most you do unconsciously without much forethought. What should I have for lunch? Should I take the freeway or surface streets to work? Others we do consciously by giving more thought and consideration to the decision we will make; should I accept that position in Boston and how will this affect my family?

Each decision is a choice, and each choice has its consequences and repercussions. Some of those will be good, some bad and some dire. There is a name for this; we call it Cause and Effect. Every choice you make is a cause and what happens afterwards to you are its effects.

Ms. Lopez believes that it happens to you mostly when you’re young. I disagree. Unless you learn how cause and effect works in your life you will continue to make wrong, kneejerk choices. And those choices will bring into your life exactly what you don’t want.

So my advice: Think things through before you make your decision. Then choose wisely.

To your dreams and better choices,



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