It’s really interesting. So many people ask me, “If I overpower my fears, what’s left? What will I feel then? Nothing?” It’s as if they fear giving up fear, and are afraid they’ll become something like an emotional zombie. Silently walking the streets searching for a feeling.
Then there are those people who desperately hope to give up fear seeking what they believe to be the opposite of fear – constant joy and happiness.
Now having overpowered the majority of my fears, I can truthfully tell you that neither of the above happens. First the opposite of fear is love. Without fear you are able to share your love with others in a manner not available to you before. No fears of being rejected. No fears of saying the wrong things. Just your heart reaching out to the hearts of others with no expectations beyond the connection made.
When you succeed at giving up your fear what is left is all your other feelings. Except this time they don’t come wrapped in paralyzing fear. When you experience joy you experience it without the fear that it is fleeting, and you may lose that joy. When you experience sadness, you experience it without the incessant mind chatter and the fear that your mind will grow the sadness into a dark depression.
Is this good? I think it is but you have to make the final determination. And this is where you rely on that wonderful universal gift, the gift of free choice. You may choose to give up fear because you are sick-and-tired of the little life you are living, and all the things you give up when living a fear-based life. Or, you may choose to keep the fear because you fear the unknown more. And are afraid that you won’t know how to deal with a true emotion that doesn’t come disguised as fear.
To your “true” feelings,